I am not sure what got into me, but something surely did. It all started with a little chocolate heart in a store checkout line. That led to macaroni and cheese (lots of it) and a giant piece of cake that made my stomach hurt. The next day, I found myself eating an entire bag of Trader Joe’s Cheetos. I felt out of control and disconnected from my true self.
What I needed was an intervention and I needed one quickly. That’s when I decided to just STOP. This little method really helps prevent over eating and unconscious snacking.
S – Stop what you are doing
T – Take a few deep breaths
O – Observe your body for real signs of hunger
P – Proceed with awareness
I am happy to report that I am back to my normal eating patterns even though my indulgences re-awakened the sugar craving monster. If this little eating adventure had a purpose it would make it easier to digest (pun intended), and that is why I am hoping sharing the STOP method will help some of you.
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When I first moved into my house I felt sure one of the first things I would do would be remove the landscaping rocks that filled the planting areas. I envisioned soft, rich earth I could dig my hands into and a yard filled with home grown vegetables and beautiful plants and flowers. Boy, was I in for a surprise.
When spring came that first year, I was fired up and ready to start removing rocks. What I discovered was the previous owners had not put a barrier between the rocks and soil so they had worked their way into the earth. I gave up after digging down a couple feet only to find there were rocks everywhere. The next year, with a new sense of motivation I tried again, this time making it down to 4 feet in one area and the soil was still filled with rocks.
I started to hate those rocks and may have even said a few four letter words, which is very unusual for me.
The following year, I decided to stop resisting and accept them. I even bought more rocks to replenish areas where they had grown thin. Potted plants and succulents became my new garden style.
And then, something strange happened.
While out on my morning walks, I started to be drawn to rocks along the side of the road. I was intrigued by their shapes and felt compelled to pick some of them up to take home. I didn’t understand what was going on, but trusted something magical was happening.
One day I sat down with the pile of rocks I had found and started balancing and fitting them together. I became mesmerized by their shapes and how they fit. The results were both interesting and beautiful. I had come full circle. Instead of resisting rocks, I now loved them.
Why am I telling you this story?
Because of this experience when I find myself resisting something, I remember the potential for beauty and transformation that can come when I let the resistance go. And, because it can happen for me, I know it can happen for you, too.
Are you willing to let go of resistance and find out what magic is waiting on the other side?
We all know that there is more and more information available to us than ever before. The internet, email, and cell phones have enhanced our lives and they have also filled our brains beyond anything expected of them before. For many, these tools of the information age have an addictive quality that not only stresses their brain, but can limit other areas of their lives, as well.
Whether you feel addicted or are just keeping up with the world, this mass of information coming into your brain can lead to infobesity and impact your life with:
- Indecision or poor decisions
- Tiredness or Exhaustion
- Diminished quality of relationships
- Lack of participating in the world fully
- Lower confidence and self-esteem
Fortunately, you do not have to go into the woods and live off grid to reduce the impact information and technology have on your energy and life. These 5 steps will get you off to a good start.
Filter Information Carefully: Focus on what you need to know instead of what catches your interest. Choose high quality information as your brain is more challenged by inconsistencies and poorly worded material. Your brain loves simple, direct input.
Single Task: While many pride themselves in their ability to multi-task, when broken down it is simply shifting between single tasks back and forth again. Whenever possible, give your brain a break by focusing for longer periods on one item at a time.
Clear Clutter in Your Work Space: Even though you may not be aware of it, your brain is constantly processing information about your surroundings. Clearing your space and carefully choosing what is in your line of vision can allow your brain to focus more fully.
Take Breaks: Breaks are important for both physical and mental energy. You will come back refreshed and be more effective than you were before you took the time out.
Disconnect: Taking an even more dramatic break from information for an hour, day, or more, can refresh your mind and allow you to bring your information use back into perspective. These quiet times are excellent opportunities to reconnect with yourself and those around you. You will feel clearer about your choices and what you really want when you step back into the information world.
We all have emotional responses that do not serve us well. Anger that leads us to say and do things we regret. Fear that keeps us from stepping into our true potential. And, emotional pain that keeps us stuck in the past and unable to heal.
Each of these manifest as physical energy in our bodies and one of the ways to relieve the pressure they create is to vent that energy. Anger can be released by hitting a punching bag or pillow. Pain and fear respond well to free form writing and release exercises.
But, there is an even greater opportunity available to you.
What if instead of venting, you were able to transform the energy of these emotions? Turn them into something wonderful, beautiful, and positive?
Take your anger and channel it into art or turn it into a passion for helping others. Let your pain fuel your life mission or feed a commitment to compassion and love. Transform your fear energy into excitement that propels you toward your dreams.
When energy presents itself, in whatever form, you get to choose how to use it. You have an opportunity to reframe what feels negative and channel it into something more inspiring or meaningful.
When you do, your entire life can be transformed.
When clients first come to me they usually have an issue they want to resolve or something they would like to create. They may want to:
- Move beyond feeling stuck
- Reconnect with who they really are
- Accomplish or create something
- Feel more peaceful and grounded
- Have support and guidance through a transition
- Shift their attitude or change their behavior
- Release the hold something in their past has on them
- And, so on….
And yet, when all said and done, they tell me there was something even more powerful and unexpected that came forward. The real gift was who they became through the process and how much they learned to love and value themselves.
Intentions and goals are not just about doing, they are about learning and growing and being. They evolve who we are.
So, I’m wondering – Who do you want to become?
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If you are like most people, you took advantage of the New Year to give yourself a fresh start by setting goals, intentions, or resolutions for the year to come.
So, how is it going?
If you find yourself losing motivation, these four questions can help you get back on track.
- Why do I deserve the results my goals will bring?
- Why are they important to me?
- How will I feel when I reach my desired outcome?
- Who will I become through the process of getting there?
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