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Intimidation

Is there someone in your life who you find intimidating or challenging?  Perhaps it is time for a change in perspective.

Just imagine them:

  • As a toddler having a tantrum
  • Shrinking to a very small size and speaking in a mouse sized voice
  • With words flashing on their forehead like sad, hurt, insecure, afraid, etc.
  • As the sweet little infant they once were
  • Morphing into a cartoon or fairy tale character 

And, my favorite:

  • See them for who they really are – a beautiful soul in a human body having a not so pretty life experience.

Don’t forget to leave a comment with your thoughts, ideas, or experiences using these tools.

 

 

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It’s always there on some level, lurking in the shadows or making a full frontal attack.  Bad things happen.  Tornados, hurricanes, divorce, people close to you get ill or die.  It would be easy to become immobile with the sadness of it all, but that doesn’t serve anyone.

Here is what I have learned to do:

Check my perspective: I can see it all as tragic or I can trust that there are blessings too.  I give myself permission not to understand and even if it feels yucky know that someone, maybe many, are growing from the experience.  People support each other in tragedy, families come together when someone they love is dying, and from the ashes new dreams are born.  It is not my place to decide what is good or bad, right or wrong, faith or love.

Do what I can:  I read to my friend in hospice, support my clients through their challenges, and listen to a friend who just learned she has a life threatening condition.  Volunteering and prayer are ways to help on a larger scale. There is always something I can do.

Focus on gratitude:  I am a sensitive person and can easily take on the pain of others, but that does nothing to make things better.  Instead, I acknowledge my feelings and let them come forward, but don’t let myself get stuck there.  The way I do this is by recognizing the ways my life is blessed.  When homes are destroyed by acts of nature I am thankful for the shelter I have and when my friend lost her mobility I was clear that my daily walks were a gift.  The tragedies of others can bring into the light how lucky I am.

I am not saying that I have this down perfectly.  I am human. What I can say is that this practice supports me and it gets easier each time.  I wonder if it could support you, too.

mind out of order

I was working with a client the other day who, like most of us, had a million things on her mind.  She was working on multiple goals with multiple steps and finding it hard to focus on any of them. The challenge was that she was wasting her precious mind space trying to hold on to everything.

What she needed was a pending folder for her brain.

We had a lot of fun playing with the idea and she was inspired by what it might feel like to have some free space in her brain again. She realized that to really let go and take things out of her mind, she needed to have a pending system she could trust and decided to use her calendar and a project app to support her mental pending folder.

The real key though, is the releasing part.  When she places things in their new temporary homes, she will visualize them leaving her mind, knowing they can be retrieved when she needs them.  This means consciously taking a moment to pause, see them safely in their new place, and let go.

When I talked to my client the following week she was excited about her progress.  She reported feeling organized, focused, and more creative.  Her letting go process was becoming a habit and starting to happen automatically.  But, most of all, she said she felt more calm, centered, and sane.

There was one more thing she shared.  She liked releasing things so much that she upgraded her pending folder for an external hard drive for her brain that had  a lot more storage.

Secretary overwhelmed

  • Focus in on a shorter period of time.  Big or long term goals can feel complicated.  Make smaller goals for this day, week, or month.
  • Stay centered in the present and take one step at a time.  Keep asking yourself, “What is the next small thing I can do that will move me forward?”
  • Remember that there is no such thing as perfection and nothing has to be forever.  You can always change your mind.

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Have you ever had one of those holiday seasons where you felt over-scheduled, over-budget, and just plain frazzled?  And, when it was all over you were just glad it was done?

This year can be different. 

You can set an intention now for how you want to be and what you want to experience this holiday season before even stepping into the whirlwind of holiday mania.  Let go of obligations and expectations and become clear about what would make your holidays meaningful, peaceful, and fun.

Time: Do you want to go to as many parties and events as possible or choose the most important ones and have time to really enjoy them?

The Holiday Dinner:  Is it worth doing a grand masterpiece of a dinner if you are too busy and too stressed to be with your friends and family?  Or, could you do something simpler, focusing on their favorites and spending more time with them instead?

Spending:  Will you buy expensive gifts out of a sense of obligation or choose to give from the heart?  Would your friends and family want you to go into debt for their gifts?

When you are clear what you want for your holiday experience, form an intention that will support you in staying true to your heartfelt desires.  You may want to post the intention where it is visible or keep a copy in your wallet to help you stay focused.

Let your intention guide you to a more peaceful, joyful, and meaningful holiday season.

What are your holiday season intentions or desires?  You can share by clicking on “Comments” under the title of this post.

 

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Hate – Love

Anger – Compassion

Fear – Courage

Pain – Joy

Stress – Peace

At some point in your life you will experience all of these, but you get to decide which ones you keep.  You really do.

Which ones will you choose?

If you feel stuck in feelings you do not want,, I would love to support you.  Simply email for a consultation.  lifecoachlinda@gmail.com

Busy mind

Our minds are valuable tools, but sometimes they can just be annoying.  Especially when they try to take over, creating an endless stream of thoughts that leave us spinning.

It would not be so bad if they were beautiful and uplifting thoughts, but when our minds gets in this state it’s favorite subjects are usually worry, fear, self-judgment, and guilt.

Who needs that? 

Your mind is not who you are.  It does not control you.  Here are 5 simple tools to try when your brain goes into monkey mind mode:

Prayer and/or Meditation – the ultimate peace giving tools

Mindful Movement – go for a walk or run and count your steps

Focused Activities – Find an activity that requires or inspires your full attention.  Ideas that have worked for others include art, crafts, building things, puzzles, gardening, and sports.

Visualization – Picture the thoughts spinning in your head and then move them to a place outside of you.

Challenging Your Thoughts – Ask yourself if the thoughts are really true and if they serve you.  If not, let them go.  Repeat this process until your mind understands what kinds of thoughts you are willing to keep.


Linda Luke

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