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Is there someone in your life who you find intimidating or challenging? Perhaps it is time for a change in perspective.
Just imagine them:
- As a toddler having a tantrum
- Shrinking to a very small size and speaking in a mouse sized voice
- With words flashing on their forehead like sad, hurt, insecure, afraid, etc.
- As the sweet little infant they once were
- Morphing into a cartoon or fairy tale character
And, my favorite:
- See them for who they really are – a beautiful soul in a human body having a not so pretty life experience.
Don’t forget to leave a comment with your thoughts, ideas, or experiences using these tools.
I have heard it said that when someone loses their vision, their other senses grow stronger.
When people or things go away, it creates space for something new to come in.
When we get older and lose physical strength, our wisdom comes forward.
When a house burns down, people often say the fresh start was a true gift.
And, when it feels like all is lost, is exactly when we are most connected to our soul.
So, when we lose someone or something, we are always in a process of renewal. I think it will help to remember that when the losses come.
Life is full of ups and downs and it is easy to get caught in the trap of letting your feelings and self worth rise and fall as things happen to you.
I remember once applying for a job and everything was going great until they gave me a test. I aced the personality questions, basic math, and word comprehension. And then, I came to a section on algebra. Now, algebra was never one of my strengths and it had been decades since I had even seen it. I was pretty sure it didn’t have anything to do with the job I was applying for.
But, it brought me to my knees.
I left that day feeling stupid. There was a dark cloud of toxic energy following me everywhere I went. Instead of surfing the wave of a small setback, my emotions were reacting and turning it into a catastrophe. I was making myself sea sick.
There are still moments in my life when I react to what happens outside of me instead of being grounded in the truth of who I am. When this happens, I ask myself these questions:
- Will it matter one month or one year from now?
- What is the truth in this situation?
- Does this define me?
- What is my soul telling me?
- What does God want me to know?
- What action can I take to move on?
- What am I grateful for?
Go ahead, try them. They might work for you, too.
Somewhere deep inside each of us is an inner child who wants to come out and play. As adults, we often lose sight of the sense of joy and wonderment that we felt when we were young. Life becomes busy and filled with commitments and sometimes we forget to have fun.
What was it for you? Did you love finger painting, hula hooping, swinging on swings? Or, did you have the most fun when you were at carnivals, swimming, or dancing?
Don’t deny yourself any longer. Make a play date with your inner child and go have some fun. You can even invite a friend and their inner child to join you.
It’s time to play!!!
I would love to hear how you bring out the kid in you. You can share in the comments section of this blog.
Breathe in deeply – feel the air expand your diaphragm and watch your stomach rise.
Breathing in fully is saying YES to life.
Be grateful for your breath. Let it remind you what really matters and that your life is already filled with blessings.
Take a deep breath before you react to people or issues. Let it calm you and give you space to center yourself.
Breathe in love. Apply it to any emotional hurt, physical pain, upset, anger, or fear that is residing in your body. Let them ride on your breath and out of your body as you exhale.
Give yourself the gift of breathing breaks to maintain a sense of feeling grounded and calm as you move through any challenges in your days.
Breathe into your heart, connect with your soul, and remember who you really are.
Smiling: When you smile, mood enhancing chemicals are released into your brain, giving you that feel good feeling. Smiles are contagious and people around you will get a free mood boost too.
Gratitude: It seems to be human nature to focus on what is wrong. A simple shift to appreciating the blessings before you will improve your mood and open your mind to greater possibilities in life.
Exercise: Most people know that exercise releases feel good endorphins into your brain. It is also a great way to relieve stress and clear your busy mind.
Edit Your Input: It seems like the majority of our “entertainment” these days focuses on conflict, violence and other negative or depressing subjects. Studies show that your brain cannot tell the difference between your reactions to these make believe situations and real life. Choose instead to watch and read things that leave you feeling positive and uplifted.
De-clutter Your Life: Being surrounded by clutter impacts your mood in a negative way. When your environment is simple and clean you will feel lighter and freer, as well as proud of yourself for what you have accomplished.
Dance to the Music: The music you choose carries energy and will impact how you feel. Choose to soak your soul in upbeat rhythms and positive lyrics that inspire you. And then, just dance!
I’m Curious: What is your favorite free mood booster? You can share your answer by commenting on this post.
One of the common concerns that my clients talk about is not having enough time. They are working very hard and feeling very, very busy. We often discover that they are operating in a time warp that is not based in reality. You can use these steps to evaluate your own relationship with time:
1. Start by exploring and writing down what you value most in life. Common core values include things like family, success, happiness, service, inner peace, religious beliefs, or love. (Contact me if you would like a free list of sample values to work with.)
2. Make a list of all of the things that you spend time on or that call for your attention. (Appointments, meetings, things you do for your children, work, connecting with others, playing on Facebook, watching TV, organizations you belong to, housework, and more) Take a moment to look over your list. How does it make you feel?
3. Now, for the fun part. Cross off everything on the list. Everything! (Do it in a way that you can still see what was written beneath.) You do not “have to” do any of these things. Take a moment to absorb this. It’s a clean sweep. There is nothing left on your schedule or to do list.
4. Set an intention for how you would like to live.
5. Create a new list that only includes things that are in alignment with your values and supports the life you want to create. Be careful not to add everything back here. This is your priority list. Everything else is an option to plug in only if it feels meaningful, is in alignment, and you have plenty of time. There is one exception. If you have not included time for yourself on the list, please add it now.
6. Double check the list for illusions like the ones below:
- Keeping you and your children busy with multiple after school activities may seem in alignment with your family values, but may really be limiting your special times together.
- Spending a lot of time working on a website or marketing in social media may seem like a necessary use of your time, but it could be preventing you from getting out and connecting with potential clients.
7. Review your new list. It should be much, much shorter than the original and feel in alignment with who you are and what you want. It should feel more peaceful and leave space for spontaneity and magic.
Doesn’t that feel better?
Don’t forget to leave a comment. I would love to hear from you.