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The end of a year is a perfect time to honor the blessings that came our way and acknowledge ourselves for all we have achieved.   Because human nature is to focus on what is not working, we often minimize what went well or special moments along the way.  I encourage you to review your year with open eyes and an open heart.  You might be surprised what you see…

Year End Process

  • Create quiet time and space so that you can focus without interruption
  • Set a clear and positive intention for your process 

Write your answers for the following:

  • List your wins and accomplishments for the year (at least 50)
  • Write about what you learned from the challenges you faced
  • What are you proud of yourself for?
  • What are you grateful for?
  • What do you want to take away from this year and integrate in the future?
  • Anything else that feels meaningful to include

Don’t forget to share some of your wins or special moments by clicking on “comment” below the title of this blog.

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I have heard it said that when someone loses their vision, their other senses grow stronger.

When people or things go away, it creates space for something new to come in.

When we get older and lose physical strength, our wisdom comes forward.

When a house burns down, people often say the fresh start was a true gift.

And, when it feels like all is lost, is exactly when we are most connected to our soul.

So, when we lose someone or something, we are always in a process of renewal.  I think it will help to remember that when the losses come.

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Many people believe that we are souls put on this earth to experience life as a means to learning lessons and evolving spiritually.

You might hear them say that when something bad happens it is for the highest good, that you will learn and grow from it, or that there are hidden blessings involved.

What stands out for me is that you only hear people talk about these life lessons when things are going wrong.  Is it not probable that we are also here to experience lessons about love, joy, and success?

Consider these life experiences:

  • Learning to receive
  • Being loved unconditionally
  • Creativity
  • Connecting with nature
  • Living your passion
  • Loving someone with all your heart
  • The joy of uplifting others
  • Experiencing the miracle of carrying and giving birth to a child

Just imagine how your energy will shift when your awareness expands to include the full range of life lessons, the good as well as those that might feel more challenging.

I would love to hear about some of the beautiful life lessons you have experienced.  You can share by clicking on  “Comments” under the title of this post.

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When I hike I have a tendency to look at the ground about 10 feet ahead of me, staying alert to things in my path that might cause me to trip.  I can be in the middle of nature’s incredible beauty and all I see is dirt.

When I go for walks in my neighborhood, I do the same.  Focus on the concrete, sometimes finding heart shapes in its imperfections or earth worms I can save.

When I look up, the beauty and expansiveness of the world can surprise me.  The world is so much more than I focus on.    It is filled with color and the sky seems to go on forever.

I am going to practice looking up.  I want to experience the expansiveness of my surroundings and the beauty all around me.  I want to feel it and soak it in.  I want to expand the number of things I have to be grateful for.

Will you join me?

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Life is full of ups and downs and it is easy to get caught in the trap of letting your feelings and self worth rise and fall as things happen to you.

I remember once applying for a job and everything was going great until they gave me a test.  I aced the personality questions, basic math, and word comprehension.  And then, I came to a section on algebra.    Now, algebra was never one of my strengths and it had been decades since I had even seen it.  I was pretty sure it didn’t have anything to do with the job I was applying for.

But, it brought me to my knees. 

I left that day feeling stupid.  There was a dark cloud of toxic energy following me everywhere I went.  Instead of surfing the wave of a small setback, my emotions were reacting and turning it into a catastrophe.  I was making myself sea sick.

There are still moments in my life when I react to what happens outside of me instead of being grounded in the truth of who I am.  When this happens, I ask myself these questions: 

  • Will it matter one month or one year from now?
  • What is the truth in this situation?
  • Does this define me?
  • What is my soul telling me?
  • What does God want me to know?
  • What action can I take to move on?
  • What am I grateful for?

Go ahead, try them.  They might work for you, too.

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My client was really upset.  Her husband spent the morning watching Nascar on TV instead of cleaning the yard as promised.  She could feel her frustration become more intense with the sound of each lap the cars made around the track.  By the time she talked to me on Monday, she was ready to vent.

I listened to her story about how terrible her husband was and how he was to blame.  I think she was a little surprised by what happened next.  When I suggested that she was the source of her own discomfort, she stopped short.

People do things we don’t like and sometimes those things impact our lives in negative ways, but we always have a choice in how we process them.  What my client’s husband chose to do that morning was about him, but, my client’s reaction was all her own.  She could have handled the situation without feeling like a victim or suffering.

Relationships are complicated and we are all human, but we do have choices.  The next time you feel yourself getting upset, stop and ask yourself if there might be a better way to respond to the situation.  Remind yourself that letting yourself get worked is a waste of your precious time on this earth and will only hurt you.

And then, make a self-honoring choice …

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Sometimes things just don’t go well – people treat you badly, you don’t get what you want, and life beats you down.

Don’t you just hate that?

The real question is – what do you do next?  Odds are you keep replaying the situation in your mind, and then talk to others about it, looking for agreement and support.  I know because I have done it.

When you do this you are putting your focus on what did not work, which only makes you feel worse. It is like bathing in discontent and unhappiness all day, week, month, or maybe even years.

And then, you share that feeling with others, which impacts how they feel too.   Very few people enjoy being with a complainer.  Some may avoid you and others may just tune you out.  Either way you are not connecting or feeling heard.

Complaining is a habit.  One that impacts you and those around you in a negative way.  The good news is that habits can be changed. Here are some steps that can support you in that process:

  • Recognize it is a habit and make a decision to let it go.
  • Visualize how your life will improve when you stop complaining.
  • Focus on the blessings in your life.
  • Write 5 things you are grateful for each day.
  • Empower yourself by taking action to change what you don’t like.

So, I have a challenge for you.  Are you willing to give up complaining for at least one week?  It’s not something you will regret and I would love to hear how it goes. You can share your experience in the comments section of this blog.

Let’s all enjoy a complaint free week!


Linda Luke

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