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The Law of Attraction is both interesting and exciting. The simple version is that we are all vibrating energy and whatever we put out into the world attracts similar energy. It is especially popular with people who want to use this law to manifest success in their lives or businesses.
The book and movie, “The Secret”, brought a lot of attention to the idea of attraction, but many people took it to mean that they could just sit on their couches and make their dreams come true. They failed to realize that the thought leaders in the book had also worked hard to get where they were at.
There are three elements to successfully using the Law of Attraction to manifest what you want in your life.
Be Impeccable with Your Thoughts and Words: What you think creates how you feel and the level of your energy. Every time you think of a limitation or doubt your dream, you make it more challenging to achieve. Instead, shift your negative thoughts to positive ones full of possibilities and gratitude.
Juice it Up: Connecting emotion to our thoughts supersizes their manifesting abilities. You can do this by focusing on why you want what you want and how it will feel to have it. Saturate yourself in the feeling of that end result and you will be more focused and drawn to making it happen.
Get Moving: When you take action you provide forward momentum and opportunities for the universe to give you feedback. Feedback may be a feeling that something is or isn’t right. It can also show up as synchronicity, things falling into place, or being blocked in some way. In order to know what to do next, you need to take the first step.
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If you are like most people, you took advantage of the New Year to give yourself a fresh start by setting goals, intentions, or resolutions for the year to come.
So, how is it going?
If you find yourself losing motivation, these four questions can help you get back on track.
- Why do I deserve the results my goals will bring?
- Why are they important to me?
- How will I feel when I reach my desired outcome?
- Who will I become through the process of getting there?
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I lost my oomph and I don’t know where it has gone. Can anyone relate?
Looking back, it probably started when I hurt my ankle and couldn’t exercise for a month. There are also the ongoing issues of several people I care about facing very serious medical issues. The last straw was traveling for the holidays and coming home with bronchitis that kept me low for 2 weeks.
So, now it is mid-January and I am feeling behind and oomph-less. What am I going to do?
Take Care of My Body: Exercising, eating healthy, and getting plenty of rest, are the basic building blocks of feeling good and restoring my energy levels.
Be Gentle with Myself: Feeling behind or pushing myself to do things are grounded in judgments of where I am. Instead, I am going to let my days gracefully unfold based on how I am feeling. The funny things is, when I take the heat off I often accomplish more.
Honor My Feelings: I shared with my book group about my friend in hospice and was surprised that they made such a big deal about it. I would have told you I was handling things gracefully, and I was, but I was not taking the time to connect with my feelings. I know that when I let my feelings process, I always feel lighter.
Spiritual Practice: I will be re-grounding in my daily practices. Meditation, journaling, prayer, and spending time in nature will be some of the tools I use.
Focus on the Positive: Talking or thinking about not having energy will only make it more true. My focus has been on resisting how I feel or making up stories to support it. Instead, I am choosing to shift my focus to how I want to feel and embracing it fully.
Engagement: Being with friends and communities that support me is incredibly healing. I already have several coffee and lunch dates on my calendar with fun people who I find inspiring. The other part of engagement is to step into my intentions and goals, even if it is in a very small way in the beginning. These small actions can re-connect me with what I want to do and remind me why it is so important to me.
What do you think of my plan to get my oomph back? Is there anything in it that might help you?
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It’s always there on some level, lurking in the shadows or making a full frontal attack. Bad things happen. Tornados, hurricanes, divorce, people close to you get ill or die. It would be easy to become immobile with the sadness of it all, but that doesn’t serve anyone.
Here is what I have learned to do:
Check my perspective: I can see it all as tragic or I can trust that there are blessings too. I give myself permission not to understand and even if it feels yucky know that someone, maybe many, are growing from the experience. People support each other in tragedy, families come together when someone they love is dying, and from the ashes new dreams are born. It is not my place to decide what is good or bad, right or wrong, faith or love.
Do what I can: I read to my friend in hospice, support my clients through their challenges, and listen to a friend who just learned she has a life threatening condition. Volunteering and prayer are ways to help on a larger scale. There is always something I can do.
Focus on gratitude: I am a sensitive person and can easily take on the pain of others, but that does nothing to make things better. Instead, I acknowledge my feelings and let them come forward, but don’t let myself get stuck there. The way I do this is by recognizing the ways my life is blessed. When homes are destroyed by acts of nature I am thankful for the shelter I have and when my friend lost her mobility I was clear that my daily walks were a gift. The tragedies of others can bring into the light how lucky I am.
I am not saying that I have this down perfectly. I am human. What I can say is that this practice supports me and it gets easier each time. I wonder if it could support you, too.
I was working with a client the other day who, like most of us, had a million things on her mind. She was working on multiple goals with multiple steps and finding it hard to focus on any of them. The challenge was that she was wasting her precious mind space trying to hold on to everything.
What she needed was a pending folder for her brain.
We had a lot of fun playing with the idea and she was inspired by what it might feel like to have some free space in her brain again. She realized that to really let go and take things out of her mind, she needed to have a pending system she could trust and decided to use her calendar and a project app to support her mental pending folder.
The real key though, is the releasing part. When she places things in their new temporary homes, she will visualize them leaving her mind, knowing they can be retrieved when she needs them. This means consciously taking a moment to pause, see them safely in their new place, and let go.
When I talked to my client the following week she was excited about her progress. She reported feeling organized, focused, and more creative. Her letting go process was becoming a habit and starting to happen automatically. But, most of all, she said she felt more calm, centered, and sane.
There was one more thing she shared. She liked releasing things so much that she upgraded her pending folder for an external hard drive for her brain that had a lot more storage.
- Focus in on a shorter period of time. Big or long term goals can feel complicated. Make smaller goals for this day, week, or month.
- Stay centered in the present and take one step at a time. Keep asking yourself, “What is the next small thing I can do that will move me forward?”
- Remember that there is no such thing as perfection and nothing has to be forever. You can always change your mind.
When I hike I have a tendency to look at the ground about 10 feet ahead of me, staying alert to things in my path that might cause me to trip. I can be in the middle of nature’s incredible beauty and all I see is dirt.
When I go for walks in my neighborhood, I do the same. Focus on the concrete, sometimes finding heart shapes in its imperfections or earth worms I can save.
When I look up, the beauty and expansiveness of the world can surprise me. The world is so much more than I focus on. It is filled with color and the sky seems to go on forever.
I am going to practice looking up. I want to experience the expansiveness of my surroundings and the beauty all around me. I want to feel it and soak it in. I want to expand the number of things I have to be grateful for.
Will you join me?