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When clients first come to me they usually have an issue they want to resolve or something they would like to create. They may want to:
- Move beyond feeling stuck
- Reconnect with who they really are
- Accomplish or create something
- Feel more peaceful and grounded
- Have support and guidance through a transition
- Shift their attitude or change their behavior
- Release the hold something in their past has on them
- And, so on….
And yet, when all said and done, they tell me there was something even more powerful and unexpected that came forward. The real gift was who they became through the process and how much they learned to love and value themselves.
Intentions and goals are not just about doing, they are about learning and growing and being. They evolve who we are.
So, I’m wondering – Who do you want to become?
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I lost my oomph and I don’t know where it has gone. Can anyone relate?
Looking back, it probably started when I hurt my ankle and couldn’t exercise for a month. There are also the ongoing issues of several people I care about facing very serious medical issues. The last straw was traveling for the holidays and coming home with bronchitis that kept me low for 2 weeks.
So, now it is mid-January and I am feeling behind and oomph-less. What am I going to do?
Take Care of My Body: Exercising, eating healthy, and getting plenty of rest, are the basic building blocks of feeling good and restoring my energy levels.
Be Gentle with Myself: Feeling behind or pushing myself to do things are grounded in judgments of where I am. Instead, I am going to let my days gracefully unfold based on how I am feeling. The funny things is, when I take the heat off I often accomplish more.
Honor My Feelings: I shared with my book group about my friend in hospice and was surprised that they made such a big deal about it. I would have told you I was handling things gracefully, and I was, but I was not taking the time to connect with my feelings. I know that when I let my feelings process, I always feel lighter.
Spiritual Practice: I will be re-grounding in my daily practices. Meditation, journaling, prayer, and spending time in nature will be some of the tools I use.
Focus on the Positive: Talking or thinking about not having energy will only make it more true. My focus has been on resisting how I feel or making up stories to support it. Instead, I am choosing to shift my focus to how I want to feel and embracing it fully.
Engagement: Being with friends and communities that support me is incredibly healing. I already have several coffee and lunch dates on my calendar with fun people who I find inspiring. The other part of engagement is to step into my intentions and goals, even if it is in a very small way in the beginning. These small actions can re-connect me with what I want to do and remind me why it is so important to me.
What do you think of my plan to get my oomph back? Is there anything in it that might help you?
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The end of a year is a perfect time to honor the blessings that came our way and acknowledge ourselves for all we have achieved. Because human nature is to focus on what is not working, we often minimize what went well or special moments along the way. I encourage you to review your year with open eyes and an open heart. You might be surprised what you see…
Year End Process
- Create quiet time and space so that you can focus without interruption
- Set a clear and positive intention for your process
Write your answers for the following:
- List your wins and accomplishments for the year (at least 50)
- Write about what you learned from the challenges you faced
- What are you proud of yourself for?
- What are you grateful for?
- What do you want to take away from this year and integrate in the future?
- Anything else that feels meaningful to include
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It’s always there on some level, lurking in the shadows or making a full frontal attack. Bad things happen. Tornados, hurricanes, divorce, people close to you get ill or die. It would be easy to become immobile with the sadness of it all, but that doesn’t serve anyone.
Here is what I have learned to do:
Check my perspective: I can see it all as tragic or I can trust that there are blessings too. I give myself permission not to understand and even if it feels yucky know that someone, maybe many, are growing from the experience. People support each other in tragedy, families come together when someone they love is dying, and from the ashes new dreams are born. It is not my place to decide what is good or bad, right or wrong, faith or love.
Do what I can: I read to my friend in hospice, support my clients through their challenges, and listen to a friend who just learned she has a life threatening condition. Volunteering and prayer are ways to help on a larger scale. There is always something I can do.
Focus on gratitude: I am a sensitive person and can easily take on the pain of others, but that does nothing to make things better. Instead, I acknowledge my feelings and let them come forward, but don’t let myself get stuck there. The way I do this is by recognizing the ways my life is blessed. When homes are destroyed by acts of nature I am thankful for the shelter I have and when my friend lost her mobility I was clear that my daily walks were a gift. The tragedies of others can bring into the light how lucky I am.
I am not saying that I have this down perfectly. I am human. What I can say is that this practice supports me and it gets easier each time. I wonder if it could support you, too.
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Many people believe that we are souls put on this earth to experience life as a means to learning lessons and evolving spiritually.
You might hear them say that when something bad happens it is for the highest good, that you will learn and grow from it, or that there are hidden blessings involved.
What stands out for me is that you only hear people talk about these life lessons when things are going wrong. Is it not probable that we are also here to experience lessons about love, joy, and success?
Consider these life experiences:
- Learning to receive
- Being loved unconditionally
- Connecting with nature
- Living your passion
- Loving someone with all your heart
- The joy of uplifting others
- Experiencing the miracle of carrying and giving birth to a child
Just imagine how your energy will shift when your awareness expands to include the full range of life lessons, the good as well as those that might feel more challenging.
I would love to hear about some of the beautiful life lessons you have experienced. You can share by clicking on “Comments” under the title of this post.
Even great relationships have their ups and downs. When a relationship hiccup comes into your life, how you move through it can make all the difference.
This 5 step process will support you in becoming more clear and processing things in a healthy way.
Vent It: Write your upsets out on paper instead of venting at your partner or to other people who don’t need to be involved. Find a quiet time and space and just let the words flow. When you are done, destroy the paper in some way.
Get Perspective: Someone may have upset you, but they are likely supportive in other ways. When you are in the middle of being upset it is easy to forget this. Make a list of their good qualities, how they have contributed to your well-being, and what you have learned from them.
Forgiveness: This step is important for you and does not mean you are saying the other person was right. Forgiveness is a way of releasing the hold a person or story has on you. Start by forgiving them for what they did and then forgive yourself for any part you played in the situation and judgments you made about yourself or the other person.
Truth: Ask yourself what is really true. This is another great exercise to put on paper. Just let the words flow. When you release your tight hold on the upsetting story, the truth will be revealed.
Move Forward: You get to choose what to do next. You may feel there is something you want to communicate or an action you want to take. Perhaps, you are ready to return your focus to love and gratitude for the relationship. This is your opportunity to step into consciously creating a new story for yourself and the relationship you are a part of.
These tools work for all types of relationships and can also be used to heal what has happened in your past.
She is being evicted, has limited resources, and does not know where she will go.
Even though she lives with someone in their home, she has filled it to the brim with stuff. The garage is packed floor to ceiling and unusable. The house and patio are at their limits, too. She likes to collect cute things at garage sales and seems to love them all.
And now, she has to leave in two days. Her last garage sale was this week and the garage is still 2/3 full. This letting go seems to be pulling her apart inside and filling her with grief.
Is there a break through coming from this heartbreak? I don’t know.
What I do know is that witnessing her experience has intrigued and touched me. I can’t even imagine what this is like for her.
And yet, I know this is her journey and stuff is just stuff. I wonder what it represents for her. I start to wonder what my stuff represents for me and why having things can hold such power over us.
Is it true that we own our things or do they really own us? I live fairly simply and would like to believe mine don’t, but now I am not so sure…
I would love to hear your thoughts on this subject that is very present for me. You can share by adding a comment to this post.