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The end of a year is a perfect time to honor the blessings that came our way and acknowledge ourselves for all we have achieved. Because human nature is to focus on what is not working, we often minimize what went well or special moments along the way. I encourage you to review your year with open eyes and an open heart. You might be surprised what you see…
Year End Process
- Create quiet time and space so that you can focus without interruption
- Set a clear and positive intention for your process
Write your answers for the following:
- List your wins and accomplishments for the year (at least 50)
- Write about what you learned from the challenges you faced
- What are you proud of yourself for?
- What are you grateful for?
- What do you want to take away from this year and integrate in the future?
- Anything else that feels meaningful to include
Don’t forget to share some of your wins or special moments by clicking on “comment” below the title of this blog.
Is there someone in your life who you find intimidating or challenging? Perhaps it is time for a change in perspective.
Just imagine them:
- As a toddler having a tantrum
- Shrinking to a very small size and speaking in a mouse sized voice
- With words flashing on their forehead like sad, hurt, insecure, afraid, etc.
- As the sweet little infant they once were
- Morphing into a cartoon or fairy tale character
And, my favorite:
- See them for who they really are – a beautiful soul in a human body having a not so pretty life experience.
Don’t forget to leave a comment with your thoughts, ideas, or experiences using these tools.
I have heard it said that when someone loses their vision, their other senses grow stronger.
When people or things go away, it creates space for something new to come in.
When we get older and lose physical strength, our wisdom comes forward.
When a house burns down, people often say the fresh start was a true gift.
And, when it feels like all is lost, is exactly when we are most connected to our soul.
So, when we lose someone or something, we are always in a process of renewal. I think it will help to remember that when the losses come.
It’s always there on some level, lurking in the shadows or making a full frontal attack. Bad things happen. Tornados, hurricanes, divorce, people close to you get ill or die. It would be easy to become immobile with the sadness of it all, but that doesn’t serve anyone.
Here is what I have learned to do:
Check my perspective: I can see it all as tragic or I can trust that there are blessings too. I give myself permission not to understand and even if it feels yucky know that someone, maybe many, are growing from the experience. People support each other in tragedy, families come together when someone they love is dying, and from the ashes new dreams are born. It is not my place to decide what is good or bad, right or wrong, faith or love.
Do what I can: I read to my friend in hospice, support my clients through their challenges, and listen to a friend who just learned she has a life threatening condition. Volunteering and prayer are ways to help on a larger scale. There is always something I can do.
Focus on gratitude: I am a sensitive person and can easily take on the pain of others, but that does nothing to make things better. Instead, I acknowledge my feelings and let them come forward, but don’t let myself get stuck there. The way I do this is by recognizing the ways my life is blessed. When homes are destroyed by acts of nature I am thankful for the shelter I have and when my friend lost her mobility I was clear that my daily walks were a gift. The tragedies of others can bring into the light how lucky I am.
I am not saying that I have this down perfectly. I am human. What I can say is that this practice supports me and it gets easier each time. I wonder if it could support you, too.
- Focus in on a shorter period of time. Big or long term goals can feel complicated. Make smaller goals for this day, week, or month.
- Stay centered in the present and take one step at a time. Keep asking yourself, “What is the next small thing I can do that will move me forward?”
- Remember that there is no such thing as perfection and nothing has to be forever. You can always change your mind.
Posted October 28, 2013on:
Many people believe that we are souls put on this earth to experience life as a means to learning lessons and evolving spiritually.
You might hear them say that when something bad happens it is for the highest good, that you will learn and grow from it, or that there are hidden blessings involved.
What stands out for me is that you only hear people talk about these life lessons when things are going wrong. Is it not probable that we are also here to experience lessons about love, joy, and success?
Consider these life experiences:
- Learning to receive
- Being loved unconditionally
- Connecting with nature
- Living your passion
- Loving someone with all your heart
- The joy of uplifting others
- Experiencing the miracle of carrying and giving birth to a child
Just imagine how your energy will shift when your awareness expands to include the full range of life lessons, the good as well as those that might feel more challenging.
I would love to hear about some of the beautiful life lessons you have experienced. You can share by clicking on “Comments” under the title of this post.
When I hike I have a tendency to look at the ground about 10 feet ahead of me, staying alert to things in my path that might cause me to trip. I can be in the middle of nature’s incredible beauty and all I see is dirt.
When I go for walks in my neighborhood, I do the same. Focus on the concrete, sometimes finding heart shapes in its imperfections or earth worms I can save.
When I look up, the beauty and expansiveness of the world can surprise me. The world is so much more than I focus on. It is filled with color and the sky seems to go on forever.
I am going to practice looking up. I want to experience the expansiveness of my surroundings and the beauty all around me. I want to feel it and soak it in. I want to expand the number of things I have to be grateful for.
Will you join me?